Now that the obligatory greeting is out of the way, here’s another: Happy Thanksgiving! I hope that, for whatever struggles you are currently enduring, you are able to find a way to be grateful for all that you do have.
The holidays can be a stressful time, particularly for those who suffer from mental health issues. This interesting article from Healthline notes two very accurate reasons for depression during this time period:
- Social isolation, particularly during the holiday season, and particular if you actually don’t have the opportunity to spend time with friends and family.
- Grieving. The holidays can be very difficult for those who have lost someone, even more so if that death is a recent one. After all, since the holidays are usually associated with spending time with people you love. As such, the loss of those who you are close with can make the pain of the holidays feel virtually unbearable.
This story from a 2014 Huffington Post article adds some additional insight:
- People tend to set unrealistic expectations for their social interaction and what they can accomplish during the Holidays (pro-tip: You aren’t Martha Stewart).
- People try to do too much.
- “Comparing your insides to someone else’s outsides,” particularly thanks to social media (YES this a thousand times!).
That being said, I may as well take this opportunity to dispel a suicide-related myth: Contrary to popular belief, suicides do not increase during the holidays. In fact, they actually decrease.
On a personal level, I was always relatively okay during the holidaus, even at my most depressed points, though there were some rough patches. Thanksgiving and Christmas were always nice, but, randomly, what always got me was the 4th of July. It’s supposed to be a fun, relaxed holiday, but somehow, I always spent it alone, or frequently with people who I didn’t really like and made me feel alone. There’s something about holidays that can just make you feel like a loser…like, you are supposed to be having fun and aren’t. Isn’t that the worst?
So, how do you survive? Some thoughts:
- First and foremost, don’t even think about talking about Donald Trump.
- Stay. The. Hell. Off. Of. Facebook. Seriously. As I’ve discussed previously, social media can be really bad for your mental health, and this can be particularly true for moments when you are already vulnerable from a mental health perspective. For your own sanity, limit your time on social media. It will be way, way too easy to, as the note above says, “compare your insides to someone else’s outsides.”
- It’s Thanksgiving. Try to be as thankful as you can be. That’s easier said, than done, of course. But, to the extent that you are able, think about it. If you are reading this blog, you have internet access, which is better than the more than three billion people who don’t have internet access. That likely means you live in the developed world, which means you have access to food, clean drinking water, modern sanitation systems and decent medical care. It’s not much, but try to remember – odds are, you have it better than billions of people across the planet. That has to count for something. Challenge yourself to shift your perspective; yeah, you have the racist uncle sitting two seats down, and he’s had one to many Coors, but odds are still better you have it better than billions.
- Remember – if you are able – actually relax! The holidays were designed for unwinding. Need a break? Take it. The damn turkey can wait. You’re more important.
- If you are someone (like me) who values routine, don’t let the holidays knock you off of it. I’m still going to the gym. I’m still gonna go to sleep and wake up at my usual times. I’d recommend the same for anyone else.
This isn’t much – and it may be woefully inadequate for what you are facing, that I completely understand – but hopefully these little tips can help make your holiday a little better.
Happy holidays, readers! I am thankful for many things in my life, and that certainly includes those of you who keep coming back to read what I have to say. I hope you have a great holiday season, and a very happy Thanksgiving!